That's true! But that's kind of one of the points of this list-making thing is to engage in conversation. I mean, I've got severe social anxiety, which makes the idea of the horizontal tango kind of terrifying sometimes, but if you know other people who are having sexy fun, sometimes just asking them What the hell is this like? How does that make you feel? is another good jumping point. Sexy communication doesn't JUST have to be with a partner prior to your first time, which is handy!